Unpredictable Life

Is life unpredictable? “Yeah”… those with pessimistic mindset will give you this answer. “No… Life is wonderful, I’m enjoying it, I’m trying to optimizing it!!!” this is those who has an optimistic mindset. OK, fine, what if when comes to the majority people who stand in the middle of the line? Is life unpredictable? I ask myself again….. Yeah….. but, it depends how you figure and measure it..

When time reach 00.00am sharp, when year 2007 slowly approaching to meet the majority crowd, when everyone thought that this will be a very new beginning, when everything has to comes brand new… a sad tragedy happened in Taiwan.

I was a bit dizzy the night before the incident happened, maybe accompanied my girl friend for a midnight movie… hehe, It was around 12.am. When I reached home, the radio was on, and I heard something about a Taiwan Chinese actress was injured seriously in a car accident. The poor mini cooper S was crashed like sandwich….

The next day while I was yum cha-ing with one of my friend, he told me that the actress passed away due to the serious accident. In that particular day, I mean the Damn whole day, I was driving “abnormally” on the road. I mean extraordinary caution, and of course it was the phobia and the effect of the news. The actress was pretty and elegant; she was a good actress, but her life stopped when she was only 26 years old. A week before she passed away, she told the media that she will be buying a lot of stuff for her parents during the coming Chinese New Year, but sadly she couldn’t make it to that day…..

So I ask some of my friend again, Is life unpredictable? They answer me… “ Shut Up la, don’t talk nonsense, we’re still young don’t discuss about this kind of Q laaaaa.” What a typical Manglish they were using.

Yeah, maybe I’m too young for that, but sometimes I do feel that life is unpredictable, no one will know what will happened the next day, or even the next minute, or either next second. Surprises approach us when we’re not aware of it, either Happy or Sad. In Chinese culture, there is a phrase that says “The day when u were born, is the day that you are slowly walking towards the Dieing day” sounds horror? But make sense huh? =)

Everyday the world is spinning, everyone is busying with their own work, studies and their own families. But no one will really sit down and figure about this ridiculous yet serious question, although it really seems meaningless and ridiculous. But from the tragedy, what I realized from it was------- APPRECIATE.

Appreciate what u have currently, appreciate what others had given to you, appreciate your parents, appreciate him, her, them, appreciate GOD because of giving you a chance to be a human being. Appreciate is the only way that can comfort and alert us when ever we’re in a highly greedy in demanding for something we already have. Sometimes we have to compare with the unlucky ones. For instance, people in Africa who suffered in starvation, they are highly demanding for food that can maintain their life; but in the other part of the world they are people who throwing the food away from their plate, and saying that this and that is not delicious and they want something that are more tastier. What a waste!!!

As a conclusion in my blog, not to mean to bring out any horror message to the public, but just to hope and advise those who view it that “Life is short, and unpredictable, please appreciate what u have now.” Thank you.

1981 -----------------2007

R.I.P

Wei Lun Xu

baby bomb

I was shocked when a friend of mine told me that someone (not revealed) our secondary classmate got pregnant and will be having a wedding dinner during this coming Chinese New Year day. So, what happened?

Nowadays, little “incidents” like this happened when youngsters are not “careful”. Not careful when they're having their intimate session. Which is called premarital sex. Premarital sex is a colossal dilemma in our society today. “Its number has been increasing since 50 years ago” (Premarital Sex… The Situation).

The golden question is:

Why the new generations are engaged in premarital sex?

Anybody knows what is premarital sex?

The meaning of (1) premarital is before marriage. Sex is (1) sexually motivated phenomena (2) behavior intercourse involving genital contact between individuals – female and male (3) an activity involving causing or experiencing pleasurable feelings in your body usually centered on your penis or vagina, esp. the activity of a man putting his penis into a woman's vagina.

Premarital sex is often defined as engaging in sexual intercourse outside of a marital relationship or as sexual behavior between individuals prior to marriage. However, “sexual behavior” is ambiguous and behaviors, such as dancing to kissing to the act of intercourse fall under this definition.

*quoted from the internet

A drastic change has taken place in terms of social tolerance towards pre-marital sex. Young people in cities are moving away from the traditional mindset on sex and physical relationship. In fact, majorities of American youth have no problem towards premarital sex, claim a new research. They take premarital sex as a very common issue. As long as they know what they are doing and practice safe sex, this issue will be here to stay whether you like it or not. In the western countries, it is a known fact that you are ashamed if you are still a virgin when you are 16 years old. But luckily we Asians still practice moral values and our tend to develop later than our western counterparts.

A lot of research has been conducted to find out what kind of people has more liberal attitudes towards pre-marital sex. And so far it is concluded that young people who are bad at their studies, and have low expectations about their academic future, are more likely to have a liberal attitude towards sex.

Living conditions were also found to influence people's attitudes towards sex. Those who have limited living space, or have friends who are open about sex, turns out to be more liberal about sex. Family attitudes also play an important role. Some of those young people, whose parents were opposed to sex before marriage, agreed with this point of view, compared among those whose parents did not make a big deal out of this. The overall social environments, the media’s attitude towards pre-marital sex, and relevant policies also have an influence on sexual behaviors.

Premarital sexual relations also occur when people cross their marriageable age and are unable to overlook their physical needs. One class of these people wants to be known as progressive, they stay in big cities while enjoying their freedom and independence.

These self-dependent people who believe marriage as a burden, are economically independent, they think that they have a clear thought of physical relations, just like a natural desire. For such desires, the girls and boys belonging to this class start staying together under the concept of 'Living-in-relations '. These people who don't believe in marriage, in no time, entangle with lot of troubles. These relations do not have any commitments, devotion, and when there is an ego clash with each other, then these relations without any sanctity of society become burden leading to separation and a cause for mental distress.

Problems?

Unfortunately, sexual intercourse produces babies. The birth of child arising from premarital sex is an issue going on now. Unwanted pregnancy is a terrible problem for the terrified, embarrassed, confused teenage girl, for the panicked college coed who dreads the disruption of her life, of her relationship with the guy, and of having an abortion or a baby.

Even among the animals, after giving birth to their children, both parents bring up the children together, till they become self-dependent. Single motherhood is not only unnatural but suicidal too. Even if the mother is well-versed to rear her children, she cannot provide completeness in the absence of the father. The unmarried mother can't do justice with herself and the child.

As we all know premarital sex is one of the most serious social problems that often lead to other forms of social ills such as unwed pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease (STD), and illegal abortions. Premarital sex has its pros and cons, according to people based on the survey conducted on the positive side of scale there is acceptance from one’s peers, hope for pleasure and the fulfillment of sexual desires. On the other hand, the negative side of premarital sex carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt.

Premarital sex affects people emotionally and physically. Many will express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, tension, and so much that will lead to other incidents like suicide and others occasional things.

There are numbers of options to overcome this social ill. Abstinence is important as one can impose power and live without negative results. Planning is important as well as moral education and parental guidance. Besides, one can also sublimate to engage in other kinds of things as a substitute for giving in to sex drive. People can also avoid all the thing may tempt them for instance distancing themselves away from books or magazine that are likely contain sexual elements or that can arouse sexual urges.

Premarital sex is a problem not only for teenagers but it affects even grown – ups. It does not guarantee happiness as it has the tendency that always leads to other problems such as break – ups, divorce, and unhappy marriage life.

It is totally wasteful to see our people living in this type of life. As conclusion, premarital sex has no benefits and moral grounds. It is unsafe physically and emotionally. A collective effort and initiatives from all parties involved are needed to solve or curb this serious social illness.

Introduction

Year Two Semester Three, students of the Marketing Communications course in HELP University College had been given an assignment about to do a project which is blogging to give impact to the publics.

What is blog?

A blog is a user-generated website where entries are made in journal style and displayed in a reverse chronological order.

Blogs often provide commentary or news on a particular subject, such as food, politics, or local news; some function as more personal online diaries. A typical blog combines text, images, and links to other blogs, web pages, and other media related to its topic. The ability for readers to leave comments in an interactive format is an important part of many blogs. Most blogs are primarily textual although some focus on photographs (photoblo), sketchblog, videos (vlog), or audio (podcasting), and are part of a wider network of social media.

The term "blog" is derived from "Web log." "Blog" can also be used as a verb, meaning to maintain or add content to a blog.

*source from Wikipedia.

The purpose of this project is to test our skills on how we can use internet and text to communicate to the public like how the newspapers does it. Although the internet is a very new communication tool compare to the television and newspapers, but its growth and improvement since its existance, has been increasing radically.

As of September 18, 2006, 1.09 billion people use the Internet according to Internet World Stats.

*source from Wikipedia.

The internet gives alot of advantages to the social society. It connects everyone who has internet to the whole world at anytime. It also provides services and information, such as electronic mail(e-mail), onlne chat, file transfer, interlinked webpages and other documents in the World Wide Web.

Hopefully this blog which i'm working on will will reach to the mass society to provide information and gives impact on those who has read it.

Signing out, thanks for reading.